Apr
27

The Garden State Standard of Marriage

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There is a lot of confusion abounding regarding marriage.  For the next few weeks we’ll be looking at Biblical teaching concerning marriage, divorce and even remarriage.  Marriage is a word that conjures up a whole host of emotions for many people.

Fairy Tales & Nightmares

Marriage for some is a fairy tale come true.  Marriage for others has been a nightmare come true.  We’ll be attempting to look to the Bible to form up a standard for marriage and then examine what happens when divorce comes into the picture.

Christians are called to live like Christians and that includes in the home and in the most central place in the home – the marriage.  Sadly, all too many Christians have not only fallen short of the basic standard of Christian conduct – some have chosen to abandon it all together and behind closed doors systematically blacken the souls of their children and destroy the lives of their spouses.

I have had a front row seat to some of the beauty as well as the pain of marriage – when it goes well and when it hits the fan.  I really don’t know many people who have not been touched by divorce in one way, shape form or another.  I sat across from a man who told me that death would have been better – divorce was so painful and he knew that he would endure it for the rest of his life – it wouldn’t have closure.  While hyperbolic to some, those words are completely relatable to others.

Christians Must Live Like Christians

Christians must live like Christians.  If we can get this basic building block squared away – so much in life would be a whole lot easier.  Respecting one another, up lifting one another, giving one another the benefit of the doubt, blessing one  another and forgiving one another we can have joyful marriages.  If we loved one another like Christ loves us in our marriages – life would be different!

The Christian marriage has the opportunity to be one of the best forms of evangelism ever to see the light of day!  When we love one another as Christ loves us – our marriages are winsome and attractive!

I hope you’ll join me as we look though Old and New Testament passages and consider marriage, it’s secrets and meaning as well as divorce and remarriage.  Where there is holiness, there is also grace in equal measure.  Where Jesus Christ is – there is hope… hope for all of us!